Tuesday, December 27, 2011

The Wedding Ceremony

         WELCOME HONORED FAMILY AND FRIENDS
                                    of
          DEREKSVILLE BLOGLAND and THE CHAT
                                  to the
                           MARRIAGE
                                    OF

                        Kallista Pendragon
                                   and
                        Octaboona Ambrosius

                  Wesnesday December 28, 2011
                            At One O'clock pm

                       
                    THE CEREMONY
                     JEWISH STYLE

 ketuvah 

At the reception itself, the first thing usually done is the completion, signing and witnessing of the ketuvah, or marriage contract. This contract is ordained by Mishnaic law (circa 170 CE) and according to some authorities dates back to Biblical times. The ketuvah, written in Aramaic, details the husband's obligations to his wife: food, clothing, dwelling and pleasure. It also creates a lien on all his property to pay her a sum of money and support should he divorce her, or predecease her. The document is signed by the groom and witnessed by two people, and has the standing of a legally binding agreement, that in many countries is enforceable by secular law. The ketuvah is often written as an illuminated manuscript, and becomes a work of art in itself, and many couples frame it and display it in their home

 bedekin  
After the signing of the ketuvah, which is usually accompanied by some light snacks and some hard liquor for the traditional lechaims (the Jewish salute when drinking, which means, "to life!"), the groom does the bedekin, or "veiling." The groom, together with his father and future father-in-law, is accompanied by musicians and the male guests to the room where the bride is receiving her guests. She sits, like a queen, on a throne-like chair surrounded by her family and friends. The groom, who has not seen her for a week (an eternity for a young couple!), covers her face with her veil. This ceremony is mainly for the legal purpose of the groom identifying the bride before the wedding.

chuppah  
The next stage is known as the chuppah, or "canopy." The chuppah is a decorated piece of cloth held aloft as a symbolic home for the new couple. It is usually held outside, under the stars, as a sign of the blessing given by G-d to the patriarch Abraham, that his children shall be "as the stars of the heavens." The groom is accompanied to the chuppah by his parents, and usually wears a white robe, known as a kittel, to indicate the fact that for the bride and groom, life is starting anew with a clean white slate, since they are uniting to become a new entity, without past sins. In fact, the bride and groom usually fast on the day of the wedding (until the chuppah) since for them it is like Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. While the bride comes to the chuppah with her parents, a cantor sings a selection from the Song of Songs, and the groom prays that his unmarried friends find their true partners in life.
When the bride arrives at the chuppah she circles the groom seven times with her mother and future mother-in-law, while the groom continues to pray. This symbolizes the idea of the woman being a protective, surrounding light of the household, that illuminates it with understanding and love from within and protects it from harm from the outside. The number seven parallels the seven days of creation, and symbolizes the fact that the bride and groom are about to create their own "new world" together.
Under the chuppah, an honored Rabbi or family member then recites a blessing over wine, and a blessing that praises and thanks G-d for giving us laws of sanctity and morality to preserve the sanctity of family life and of the Jewish people. The bride and groom then drink from the wine. The blessings are recited over wine, since wine is symbolic of life: it begins as grape-juice, goes through fermentation, during which it is sour, but in the end turns into a superior product that brings joy, and has a wonderful taste. The full cup of wine also symbolizes the overflowing of Divine blessing, as in the verse in Psalms, "My cup runneth over."

 ketuvah 
  The groom, now takes a plain gold ring and places it on the finger of the bride, and recites in the presence of two witnesses, "Behold you are sanctified (betrothed) to me with this ring, according to the Law of Moses and Israel." The ring symbolizes the concept of the groom encompassing, protecting and providing for his wife. The ketuvah is now read aloud, usually by another honoree, after which it is given to the bride.

 Sheva brachos

After this, the sheva brachos, or seven blessings, are recited, either by one Rabbi, or at many weddings a different blessing is given to various people the families wish to honor. The blessings are also recited over a full cup of wine. The blessings begin with praising G-d for His creation in general and creation of the human being and proceed with praise for the creation of the human as a "two part creature," woman and man. The blessings express the hope that the new couple will rejoice together forever as though they are the original couple, Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. The blessings also include a prayer that Jerusalem will be fully rebuilt and restored with the Temple in its midst and the Jewish people within her gates.
At this point the couple again share in drinking the cup of wine, and the groom breaks a glass by stamping on it. This custom dates back to Talmudic times, and symbolizes the idea of our keeping Jerusalem and Israel in our minds even at times of our joy. Just as the Temple in Jerusalem is destroyed, so we break a utensil to show our identification with the sorrow of Jewish exile. The verse, "If I forget thee O' Jerusalem, let my right hand forget its cunning: If I do not raise thee over my own joy, let my tongue cleave to the roof of my mouth", is sometimes recited at this point. With the breaking of the glass the band plays, and the guests usually break out into dancing and cries of "Mazaltov! Mazaltov!" (Some say, tongue in cheek, that this moment symbolizes the last time the groom gets to "put his foot down")



cheder yichud
Now that the couple are married they are accompanied by dancing guests to the cheder yichud, "the room of privacy." They may now be alone in a closed room together, an intimacy reserved only for a married couple. In fact, according to many Jewish legal authorities, the very fact that they are alone together in a locked room, is a requirement of the legal act of marriage, and hence their entry into the room must be observed by the two witnesses of the marriage.

While the bride and groom are alone together (usually eating, after having fasted all day) the guests sit down to eat a festive meal. The meal is preceded by ritual washing of the hands, and the blessing over bread. At some point, the band announces the arrival "for the very first time, Mr. and Mrs. _____!!!" and everyone joins in dancing around the bride and groom. The dancing, in accordance with Jewish law requires a separation between men and women for reasons of modesty, and hence there is a mechitzah, or partition between the men and women. The main focus of the dancing is to entertain and enhance the joy of the newlyweds, hence large circles are formed around the "king and queen," and different guests often perform in front of the seated couple. It is not unusual to see jugglers, fire eaters, and acrobats at a wedding (most of whom are guests, not professionals!) The meal ends with the Birchas Hamazon, Grace After Meals, and again the seven blessings are recited over wine, shared afterwards by the bride and groom.

The Bride

                                                                         Hair:                
The Dress:
The flowers:


The rings: Kal's



Octa's


 

691 comments:

  1. *eagle, covered in flour, purple paint and glitter, lands on a chair*

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  2. EXITE~! *bounces around* Everyone tell me what you're wearing~!

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  3. *stands at the back of the room watching the proceedings*

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  4. ...I want to be a fire-eater and a acrobat!!!!!!!!!!

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  5. Elisabeth- I'm pretty sure I'm just wearing jeans and a t-shirt...

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  6. *walks in, arm interlinked with Niall, and shakes Elisabeths hand* Nice to meet you, I'm Ven. Looks like we're in the same buisness. ^^

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  7. Is anyone going to say something wedding-y?

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  8. Yayyyyy!

    Congratulations!
    *sobs uncontrollably into tissue*

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  9. *walks in wearing a light blue dress*

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  10. *is wearing a soft pink flowy dress and a pink hair band* *sits on chair and watches*

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  11. *is here in bitchin' suit*
    Also, Ven, Elisabeth is Lizzy. I think.

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  12. *dismounts the sheep*

    I believe I am wearing a tuxedo dress. I will provide further description when I come up with something :P

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  13. *throws glitter everywhere* YAY TEH ADRENALINE AND YAY OCTALLISTA SQUUEEEEE

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  14. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

    QUINN, I BE DRAWING YO DRESS ASAP NOW I THINK

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  15. *reads the post* Jewish weddings are rather complicated, are they not?

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  16. YAY! DRAWING OF MY DRESS! I SHALL SOON FIND OUT WHAT I AM WEARING :D

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  17. I wish I could read the post, I can barely read the squiggly writing. I will copy it and read it on wordpad. Sorry :P

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  18. Great- is this the bit just before the ceremony where everyone talks about what they are wearing and how happy they are for the couple? In which case, I'm afraid I might dissapoint on both levels.

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  19. Dooby dooby dooo, first wedding I wanted to actually be at.

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  20. I am weaarriiinnnngggg.....!

    Clothes. I don't know :P I need to go find what I told someone else.

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  21. *a man walks in from the side entrance wearing black pants, a knee-length leather jacket, and a green tshirt.* Well, hello there :D

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  22. I'm wearing a flowy blue that goes up to my knees

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  23. *walks in hand in hand with Pyro, grinning madly*

    *has protective water layer on the side of her face closer to Pyro so doesn't get singed by his hair*

    GAAAAHA SO EXCITED!

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  24. *walks into the wedding dressed in a purple tux, a violet waistcoast and tie with golden rim and a freakin' purple fez with a gold tassel*

    Jewish wedding ceremonies are beautiful, meaningful and yes complicated :)

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  25. *tackles Hellboy in a hug*

    The jacket makes up for the lack of tie. :3

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  26. HELLBOY YOU ARE LATE!!


    but hello Red dear ^^

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  27. *trots in tapping his cane and takes a seat*

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  28. *stares in disbelief at the fact Phoenix has decided to stand next to me.* I don't really do weddings. You?

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  29. I LOVE Kal's dress. It's beautiful!!!

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  30. I have forgotten who Elis ahhhh...Liz, Lizzy >.< See that, i aint entirely stupid...

    Hey Octa!

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  31. *wanders in wearing... clothes.*
    *hugs the first person she sees*
    Hi.

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  32. I need to leave in 20 minutes... I'm going to miss 90% of this, aren't I?

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  33. I am wearing...I am wearing...

    LOOK! MY CAPUCHINS!

    *hugs capuchin monkeys, one climbing up to sit on her head, the other chasing all the mice away*

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  34. Kal! BOTH OF YOU ARE AWESOME, FASDLFASLFAELWFILASDIL FIUBWN

    *hugs everyone* Yessss, wedding :D

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  35. *pats Hellboy on the head*

    It took me a moment to realize it was her too~

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  36. *stares at madness with eyebrow raised*

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  37. HELLBOY ARE YOU IN DRAG AS REQUESTED BY THE GROOM?

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  38. Let us begin. *clears voice*

    Honoured guests, relatives, my lovely Bride and the capuchins.

    I bring you a chocolate sculpture of an oliphant for you to eat during the ceremony.

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  39. It's a pleasure to be here, I almost missed it, when shall we begin?

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  40. *sobs and piggy backs Niall* godohgodwhathaveidonetodeservethis...

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  41. I was wearing some dress before, buuut...

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  42. The Bride does not want Quinn to miss out on anything.

    *hugs* Someone take charge for th ebride please. She can only think of her groom.

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  43. *hugs Pyro, says hello and gives a hug to everyone else, then goes back to hugging Pyro*

    Eveyone looks so PWETTY!

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  44. *ruffles Hellboys hair* Don't be late next time.

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  45. *noogies kalia*

    join in the madness *dives in*

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  46. AH WHAT THE ECK.

    *changes into a magical talking cat with purple wings, and sits on Hellboys head, purring like a lawnmower*

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  47. *dries Hellboy's tears*
    *WITH HIS FIST*

    YOU WILL TAKE WHAT YOU ARE GIVEN AND LIKE IT, YOUNG MAN.

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  48. *can't eat the statue* Got anything for us Reapers?

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  49. *everyone who hugged everyone has now flour, glitter and purple paint on them, from hugging the eagle/dove*

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  50. *prods the top of Hellboys head with a paw*

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  51. *pokes the statue curiously*

    *breaks a piece of and starts nomming it*

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  52. NIALL WHAT IS IT WITH YOUR VIOLENCE TO PEOPLE'S EYES? I MEAN THIS IS JUST RIDICULOUS NOW.

    also, everyone shut up and listen to kal when necessary, plz.

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  53. *ruffles Hellboy's hair*
    I'm kidding.


















    ...









    But if you stop, i will kill you.
    ...
    Slowly.

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  54. *sits on a chair/pew* *nomming chocolate and just watching the chaos, and taking pictures*

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  55. @ Elizabeth- I don't eat souls... -_-

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  56. *pries Niall off with a crowbar* come on, get off. You go sit with Ven or something

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  57. *hands kalia enough steak to last through the wedding*

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  58. *gives Kalia a statue made from raw steak*
    Better?

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  59. All I know is that I'm wearing a shiny pink tie and a top hat. With a black dress or something :P

    *picks up and pets the Mar-cat*

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  60. I'm gonna need Hellboy to walk me down the isle. But 1st I need to know where our Rabbi is. :)

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  61. @Kalia well then what do you eat? And it's Lizzy BTW, you can call me as such ^^

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  62. *glares at Lizzy and hugs Hellboy's head protectively*
    But he's so comfy...

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  63. *kisses Niall* but Lizz-zzziieee, he was having fuuunnnnn!!!

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  64. Oh, and does anyone know what the hellhound is going on?

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  65. *holds up crowbar* don't make me go all Gordan Freeman on your ass

    ;P









    (I just wanted to use that line)

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  66. I'm being called away...

    Gah.

    Sorry folks.

    Maybe I'll get back?

    I don't know.

    Have a fantastic time! Enjoy!

    Congrats!

    *leaves a present for Octa and Kallista* *hint: it's a goldfish*

    Goodbye! *waves*

    *rushes away elegantly, dragging her sheep behind her*

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  67. *sits in an elaborate chair/throan like a Queen surrounded by all her sisters of the blog*

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  68. *hugs Quinn goodbye before taking a place next to Kal's throne*

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  69. CANT...RE-LOAD PAGE..PAGE...NOT COOPERATING...

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  70. *puts on a tinfoil coated hat*

    Attention please!

    We would like to begin the ceremony.

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  71. *flys up and perches on Red's shoulder (the one NOT on Pyro's side, since I'm a dove, no roasted chicken)*

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  72. Can I be Rabbi? I actually *do* know some of the stuff from my mum's wedding last February ^^

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  73. WHAT THE HELL!
    *cartwheels across room*

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  74. *huggies kal and sits around the royal couple's feet*

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  75. Bye Quinn.
    *sits on Hellboy's shoulders*

    Alright, someone get on Reg's shoulders, it's jousting time.

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  76. Farewell Quinn! Farewell sheep!

    ATTENTON ALL! WE WOULD LIKE TO BEGIN!

    *taps a glass with a spoon to make the tingy noise*

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  77. Aww... Byee Quinn! *hugs*

    No prob Kalia ;)

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  78. *sits on a chair and waits for the ceremony to begin*

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  79. Bye Quinn!

    *hugs*

    *sits near Kal, still holding the Mar-Cat*

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  80. *sits and holds his cane and hat, waiting patiently.*

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  81. *sits in chair* *waits for ceremony to begin*

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  82. *looks at what Niall is doing* *shakes head and pulls him to a chair*

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  83. I was afk for longer than i thought i was and i must say, there were a lot of threats running for meh in that time xD

    *keeps running*

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  84. I'm so sorry I missed more than a half of your wedding! *Frowns* My mother had guests over... I'm SO SORRY!

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  85. retcon - *kisses him as he sits down, and starts doodling on hands*

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  86. haven't missed anything much get, now shuuuuush ^^ it's starting

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  87. *WAITS FOR CEREMONY TO BEGIN BUT STILL STANDS AT THE BACK OF ROOM WITH HANDS IN POCKETS* ... why was that in capitals???

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  88. *hugs Iris* *whispers* You're here now! :D

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  89. 132 comments??

    i will sadly have to leave in a couple of minutes

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  90. *whispers to Iris* The ceremony hasn't started yet

    *sits somewhere*

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  91. *lunges forward, catching Hellboy by the tail of the coat, as a human*

    OI HELLY!

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  92. *Hugs back* I am but I've missed EVERYTHING! Argh, I feel like poo!

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  93. u are not, iris
    u havent really missed anything


    ok flame

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  94. You havent missed EVERYTHING. It has barely started.

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  95. *sits quietly listening to ceremony*

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  96. Marrrrr, leave Hellboy alone....

    *clicks fingers and changes him into a gown* fun for all!!

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  97. *nods* Looks at kalia *nods again still standing beside her*

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  98. *wishes she could see the ceremony but is unable to look away from Pyro*

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  99. *Listens quietly to ceremony also since she's JUST disrupted it*

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  100. Legggggggggggoooooooooooo~
    Hellboy is in drag nowwwwwwwwwww~

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  101. *gasps, choking on her gasp*

    THE LITTLE DEMONS ARE UP!!!!!!!

    *hides behind Thalia, shivvering in fear*

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  102. *gets out tiny camera and tosses it to Iris to take pictures* I can't be bothered.

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  103. why is hellboy in a dress *wonders bemused*

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  104. *retreats into word, peeking out at the ceremony*

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  105. *starts to read from the Ketuvah- the marriage document*

    I Octaboona Ambrosius solemnly swear to provide for my wife Kallista Pendragon. I swear to provide her with food, clothing, a dwelling and items for pleasure. In the case of a divorce or my premature death I promise to leave her a sum of money for her to live off.

    *signs the document*

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  106. *Looks down at her dress and frowns* *Mutters stuff about looking too girly but is happy she hasn't missed EVERYHING*

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  107. *tapes everyone's mouths shut so they'll listen to the ceremony*

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  108. *grabs Mar and the Capuchin monkeys and sits them all down*

    It's starting!

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  109. *shh legs cermony listening awesomeness*

    *and I'm still not wearing drag*

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  110. *stares at madness* ~its started~ i think

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  111. *Looks intently at the document from her seat*

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  112. *Smiles because she's so happy for her friends marriage*

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  113. Hellboy - but I drew it now.

    also, SHUSH.

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  114. hellboy, just be my boyfriend for a minute and shushies.

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  115. Could the groom and all the male guests please move to the side chamber where the veiling will take place.

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  116. *Is already quiet but still becomes extra silent as to not disrupt the marriage*

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  117. *watches ceremony from under large hood and mutters to Phoenix*

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  118. *Nods at Mar and listens intently to Octa*

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  119. *continues sitting, watching all the male guests leave* ^^

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  120. *Realizes she has a whole bench to herself and frowns, looks back up and waits for more words*

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  121. Sorry, i am now officially here, but i'm gonna be slow cos i'm on my phone

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  122. *watches all males shuffle for their bit of the ceremony*

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  123. *the musicians start playing as I walk into the chamber*

    *My beautiful bride is sitting on a throne as Queen, recieving all the guests*

    *I walk up to her with the veil in my hands and drape it over her beautiful face*

    *points to the selection of snacks and alchohol on a nearby table*

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  124. *goes quietly to sit next to Iris*
    *whispers* I hope you don't mind

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  125. *moves to the side chamber, and feels a little sad that he has no date to this wedding, oh well*

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  126. *Nods at Chan and sighs because she's sitting all alone*

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  127. *nods at Chanoro in greeting*
    *continues sitting/watching/listening/being quiet*

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  128. *waves bye to the lads, and goes off to talk to lego about glitter* *or do whatever I am supposed to do*

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  129. *plays with sacreficial dagger distractedly at the back*

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  130. *grins at how beautiful Kal looks, and also at the string thing on the fez on Octa's head*

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  131. Erm *does whatever I am supposed to do* What's that *whispers*

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